Klare Heston, LCSW

Licensed Social Worker

Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).

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How do I forgive my cheating husband?
If you forgive your husband, it will likely happen slowly and over time. It will depend on how he handles the situation. Is he sorry? Does he strongly state that he wants your relationship to continue? Ask yourself if you are able to forgive him—in some situations, forgiveness isn't always possible.

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I like a nerdy kind of guy and someone told him about it. I would like to talk to him but he would never look at me and would never respond. What can I do to make things better between us?
Nerdy kinds of guys are often shy or uncomfortable in any social situations. The dating thing is probably even harder! Make some reasonable attempts to connect with non-heavy types of conversation. Try not to read too much into his expression, or the absence of an expression! It could take a while. Give it some time, but move on if you start to feel very frustrated! There are other guys out there!
A guy I asked out made fun of me and stopped being my friend? How do I get over this?
Some people are worth putting time into, and some are not. If he was overtly cruel, don't try to make any more attempts to contact him. There are a lot of nicer guys out there! Remind yourself that you are a great and interesting person, and many people people find you that way. We can all find at least one person who doesn't like us or doesn't treat us well. Move on, and smile!
My husband has been having an affair for the past five years, despite giving him an ultimatum and confrontation. I think he is still seeing her. What do I do?
It sounds like you might be hesitating and wavering on your position. If you gave an ultimatum that long ago, why haven't you followed through on it? You might consider personal counseling if you are unhappy and frustrated about the situation after such a long period of time. Best of luck!
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