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Marlena Tillhon

Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach

Marlena Tillhon is a psychotherapist and relationship coach based in the UK. With over 12 years of experience, Marlena specializes in relationships, trauma, and anxiety. Through her business, Therapy That Works, she supports clients worldwide in creating secure relationships where they feel loved and valued. She has worked with nearly 800 clients to help them work through inner healing and create relationships and a life that works for them. She is also known online as @lovewithclarity, sharing her professional insights with a community of over 44k followers. Marlena has an MSc in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy from the University of Derby.

Education

  • BSc (Hons) Social Sciences 2003
  • BSc (Hons) Psychology 2011
  • MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy & Counselling at The University of Derby 2016

Professional Achievements

  • Founding member of the Codependency Recovery Council 2022 - 2024
  • Published articles on Tidy Buddha

Certifications & Organizations

  • RLT L1 with Terry Real 2025
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Steve Hayes & Russ Harris 2017-2018

Favorite Piece of Advice

I believe relationships really matter as they impact our quality of life, health, and emotional well-being. It is important that we learn how to create a relationship that really works for us, which is why I adopt a customized approach in my client work. This way, I ensure that my clients experience lasting results and positive change within their relationships.

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I really like this girl but I'm afraid that I messed things up
It seems like you're overrelying on the idea of this romantic relationship. If you want to attract her, you need to be an attractive and balanced person. That starts with being able to separate yourself from her attention. Based on this story, if you did go into a relationship with her, it sounds like it would have a codependent dynamic with anxiety and instability. You need more people in your life who can help you meet your need for connection, social interaction, and community. You don't want an overreliance on your partner.

Co-authored Articles (9)

We Rate Your Type in Men

Men are like songs. Some live up to your taste, and others you skip over. What's your type, and is your type a good one? We'll be the judge! Answer a few questions about your feelings on men, and we'll tell you what we...

This or That? Dating Standards

Split the checks or let the person who asked pay? Plan out dates ahead of time or make spontaneous plans? There's no black-and-white answer to these common dating questions, but we want to know what YOU think! Take thi...

15 Signs of Obsession (& How It’s Different From Love)

Relationship coach Marlena Tillhon highlights the differences between love and obsessionRomantic obsession can be intense, and sometimes unhealthy or dangerous. But what are the actual signs that it’s happening? This g...

8 Things That Separate Obsession from Love

Relationship coach Marlena Tillhon explains how to spot and handle obsessive loveWhile obsession may sometimes feel like love, we’re here to explain exactly what sets these two emotions apart. We’ll also give you exa...

16 Clear Signs It’s Time to Break Up (And What to Do Next)

Psychotherapist and relationship coach Marlena Tillhon helps us know when to end thingsRelationships are rarely simple, and that’s especially true when it’s time to end them. But how do you know it’s the right time...

How to

Overcome Fear of Intimacy

Do you struggle with expressing your emotions and forming close bonds with people? There's nothing to be ashamed of. Fear of intimacy is more common than you think and there are things you can do to overcome it. We'll st...

How to Know If You Should Keep Dating Someone

Relationship coach Marlena Tillhon explains how to determine if it’s time to end your relationshipDating someone new can be exciting, but what do you do when you’re feeling unsure about the connection? Don’t worry�...

How to Get Out of a Codependent Relationship

Helpful tips for leaving & healing from a codependent relationship A codependent relationship can manifest in many ways: you may feed into your partner’s alcoholism or be a people pleaser who’s afraid to say no. The ...

How to

Be Less Dependent in a Relationship

Relationship coach Marlena Tillhon lists tips to stop being so needy and dependent in your relationship When you’re in a relationship, it can be easy to lean on your partner so often that you lose yourself. Relying on ...