Susan Pazak, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Professional Life Coach

Dr. Susan Pazak is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Professional Life Coach. With more than 21 years of experience, she specializes in treating adolescents and adults with psychological issues using cognitive behavioral therapy, symptom reduction skills, and behavior modification techniques. She has been featured in numerous media outlets and shows, including “My Strange Addiction". Dr. Pazak holds a BA in Psychology with a minor in Communications from The University of Pittsburgh, an MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University.

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To cope with a sudden breakup, seek counseling to cope with and release any and all negative, hurt, disappointment, and angry emotions. Write every night about any and all negative emotions, worries, sadness, and anger.

Have a routine of activities that you enjoy doing most days, if not every day. Read, watch videos, and listen to positive, hope-based messages. Exercise and have a self-care outline daily.

Delete all contact information and social media links to untether from the person who broke up with you. Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Limit conversations about the ex except for productive conversations with a psychologist, counselor, or coach.
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If you're feeling lonely, try developing a new routine that involves some type of mind, body, and spirit healing. Stick with this routine even if you don't feel like it. Listen or watch a positive message on hope, self-love, and healing for at least 20 minutes every day. Exercise and move your body with walking, yoga, Pilates, etc., for at least 30 minutes every day to release endorphins. Recognize your negative thoughts and replace them with mindfulness, which allows you to think about the now. Think about good things every day. Journal about sadness, worry, and fears every morning or evening as needed. Socialize with people who you like and who love you.

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