How to make friends?
All my 'best friends' have always left me, and I don't really fit in anywhere. I only have myself to rely on, like 99.99% of the time. Anyway, I need some help figuring out how to make friends. I'm super friendly and really nice. I can be loud sometimes, but that's sort of my energy, but I'm lost. And it feels really lonely sometimes, so I was wondering if anyone has any advice, because . . . well, I'm alone.
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Well, first, I’m sorry that you’ve gone through those experiences and have felt really alone. I would be curious whether some of those assumptions you mentioned play into your behaviors in friendships. How does this belief that people might leave you or drift from you, even if you make really close friends, affect your behaviors in friendships? Because when we assume we'll be rejected, we tend to reject people. We tend to be more closed off, more withdrawn. I try to tell people to assume that people will like them because, according to the research on something called the acceptance prophecy, when you assume that you’re liked, you become more likable, warm, friendly, and open. So, how would you act if you assumed you were liked?
And then it’s really about shooting your shot, which means finding someone you like and letting them know you enjoyed talking to them and would love to connect further. Ask them if they’d be open to exchanging contact information, and make sure that you follow up. An easier way to meet new friends is to join something that repeats over time to capitalize on the mere exposure effect. Can you join a volleyball club, improv club, or language class? Just something where you’ll see people repeatedly and engage with them, and then ask to spend time with them outside of that.
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And then it’s really about shooting your shot, which means finding someone you like and letting them know you enjoyed talking to them and would love to connect further. Ask them if they’d be open to exchanging contact information, and make sure that you follow up. An easier way to meet new friends is to join something that repeats over time to capitalize on the mere exposure effect. Can you join a volleyball club, improv club, or language class? Just something where you’ll see people repeatedly and engage with them, and then ask to spend time with them outside of that.
All the friends I used to have... Were backstabbers, and they were fake. So I only have like.... 3??? Idk... But that's all. I'll be your friend if u want!! :3
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Yes, I would love that. Plus I relate to that so hard, like every single one I have/had are backstabbers and fake. And I would drop them, I just don't want to be alone. You know?
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heyy girly so I understand what u mean Ive lost a ton of my friends really only have 1 now and I understand what its like to feel lost I still feel the same way I would recommend joining clubs or sports to make friends thats how it mostly happens is in clubs or sports! especially if ur in high school try to join as much as u can and try to make some new friends like that or online friends are amazing I had a online best friends for about 3 years I just feel like the better people are the online ones for sure but that's the advice I do have I hope it does get better for uu luv!! you seem like such a fun and amazing person to hang out with!! I would love to get to know u thoo and become friends have a amazing day/night!!
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If you need a friend, i can be yours. I just lost my entire friend group and need friends to
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