Am I lesbian?
I'm quite young but i already have had many girl crushes, but never boys and i can't seem to picture a boy i would like, but i'm not sure if i'm actually a lesbian.
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If you’re looking for some clarity, try checking in with yourself. If you’re reading a romance novel about two women, do you feel drawn to it? When you fantasize, who are you imagining? These things can sometimes help. The most important thing is to stay curious. Don’t overthink it, and give yourself time to see what feels right.
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Figuring out your sexuality can be a long process, and it’s totally normal to feel a little confused. On the one hand, if you’ve noticed that you only have crushes on girls and not guys, this could definitely be a sign that you’re a lesbian. On the other hand, there’s also a chance that your sexuality is still changing and evolving, and you may end up identifying more with bisexuality, pansexuality, or even heterosexuality down the road. The most important thing is to be kind and patient toward yourself as you explore your attractions and figure out the label that fits you best.
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I am personally MLM gay and also identify as lesbian and omnisexual at the same time! A lot of ppl don't understand it, and try and give me new labels, but I like myself the way I am and you should too! You might be lesbian if your not into boys but it might also be berrisexual. You might wanna look up the definition on that one tho! GO GAYZ!🏳🌈
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I think I am lesbian, but I'm not for certain because I love to watch girls kissing on YouTube.
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I remeber, since I was in elementary school I always thought having crushes on girls were normal till middle school when all my friends started liking boys and I felt like I had to like them too. Around 8th grade I learned the term lesbian and identified as lesbian to only my very close friends, because most of my family was very homophobic and very religious so I was scared to come out. I did kiss a couple of girls that were striaght and always got rejected by hightschool I never dated BC I was scared of rejection. I was also tired and depressed if keeping all of my queerness in eventually it got to much and I had terrible thoughts and had to go to a theripast and she told me that it was OK that I'm lgbt and that I shouldn't punish myself for just being me. After that I embraced me queerness is bow happy. Even though happiness took a while it worked out in the end
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I remeber, since I was in elementary school I always thought having crushes on girls were normal till middle school when all my friends started liking boys and I felt like I had to like them too. Around 8th grade I learned the term lesbian and identified as lesbian to only my very close friends, because most of my family was very homophobic and very religious so I was scared to come out. I did kiss a couple of girls that were striaght and always got rejected by hightschool I never dated BC I was scared of rejection. I was also tired and depressed if keeping all of my queerness in eventually it got to much and I had terrible thoughts and had to go to a theripast and she told me that it was OK that I'm lgbt and that I shouldn't punish myself for just being me. After that I embraced me queerness is bow happy. Even though happiness took a while it worked out in the end
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I'm also quite young, a teenager to be exact, and I fully understand what you mean. Just picture yourself in a romantic situation with a guy, and see what you feel/think. FYI I don't know if this works for everyone but it helped me in a way.
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You might be bisexual but lean more towards women, I've had that problem too but I'm not too sure though
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