Do You Agree with These Microcheating Hot Takes?
Microcheating refers to small, ambiguous breaches of trust in a relationship—it's less severe than straight-up infidelity, but still problematic, and possibly signifies that the relationship is in trouble. But while we can all pretty much agree that cheating is bad, we've all got different opinions on what counts as cheating: is talking to your ex a red flag? What about flirting with a cute stranger?
For this survey, we want to know what YOU think! We'll provide a series of true-or-false statements about microcheating, and you vote based on how you really feel (and don't worry, your answers are 100% confidential!). Then, see how your answers compare to other wikiHow readers!
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- Absolutely false. ❌
- Definitely true. ✔️
- Absolutely false. ❌
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- Absolutely false. ❌
- Definitely true. ✔️
- Absolutely false. ❌
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What is Microcheating?
Microcheating refers to small, relatively minor acts of betrayal in a relationship that might signify something is wrong in the relationship. However, the exact definition of "cheating" varies from person to person and couple to couple—but at its core, "Cheating is betrayal," says relationship therapist Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. "And a betrayal...[is] when parties have a clear understanding of what needs to be done and one of the parties is acting against that."[1]
Here's what some of our other relationship experts had to say about the meaning of infidelity:
- Licensed professional counselor Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC: "A basic definition of cheating is when there is an element of secrecy and emotional connection and secrecy with another person."[2]
- Licensed clinical social work Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C: "Different people have different boundaries and different needs. Rather than trying to figure out if it's called cheating or not, the more important thing is how you feel about it."[3]
- William Gardner, PsyD: "Everything's fair as long as everybody's on board... It's only when one person doesn't know or doesn't agree that it's a problem."[4]
- Licensed marriage and family therapist Zamira Pla: "What is the agreement between you two...? Is the agreement that sex... that porn is cheating? Then that's what it means. It’s the meaning that you give to the activity."[5]
For insight into what counts as cheating, how to talk to your partner about your boundaries and expectations, and how to respond to infidelity, check out these wikiHow articles:
Want to learn more?
Check out these articles on what counts as microcheating and why people might feel compelled to cheat in the first place:
References
- ↑ Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview
- ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview
- ↑ Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C. Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Expert Interview
- ↑ William Gardner, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview
- ↑ Zamira Pla. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Expert Interview
