How to Flirt With an Aries Man & Make Him Obsessed

Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis explains how to flirt with this fire sign & steal his heart

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Amber Crain

Last Updated: February 16, 2026 Fact Checked

Passionate, confident, and incredibly charming, an Aries man is quite the catch! If you want to flirt with him and make him obsessed with you, you’re in the right place. Fortunately, an Aries man is naturally very flirtatious himself, which makes flirting with him easy and fun! We reached out to several professional astrologers to get the best tips for flirting with an Aries man and capturing his heart. Keep reading to learn everything you need to know.

How do you flirt with an Aries guy?

Psychic astrologer Stina Garbis suggests giving him plenty of attention and genuine compliments to make him feel special. Engage in playful banter and drop your most clever one-liners to impress him. Aries men also love to show off, so create opportunities for him to flaunt his skills and talents around you.

1

Get dressed up.

Download Article

Aries men love a bold and stylish look. Aries is a confident fire sign with tons of style, and they appreciate that same energy in their potential partners. When in doubt, dress to impress and go with eye-catching outfits! An Aries guy isn’t afraid to try out the latest fashion trends, so it wouldn’t hurt to keep an eye on what’s in style to keep up with him. But don’t be afraid to lean into your own unique style, as well!
- Try wearing a cute black dress or a fitted button-up shirt tucked into trousers to catch his eye.
- Since Aries is a bold fire sign, consider wearing the color red to get his attention.
- Love astrology? Take this quiz to discover your soulmate’s sign.
Meet the wikiHow Experts

Stina Garbis is a psychic astrologer and owner of Psychic Stina, a psychic business based in Oregon. She’s been a psychic, medium, and astrologer for over 30 years.

Angel Eyedealism is an astrologer based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. She has nearly three decades of astrology experience.

Tali & Ophira Edut, also known as the AstroTwins, are astrologers, intuitive advisors, and best-selling authors.

Tara Divina is a California-based Vedic Astrologer with nearly a decade of experience.

Aliza Kelly is an astrologer, author, and host based in New York City. She’s a recurring guest on The Drew Barrymore Show, and has appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live!, E!, the Today show, and CNN.

2

Use positive body language.

Download Article

Aries men adore flirty body language. According to astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut, Aries men are immediate, fiery, and passionate. They suggest using “words of affirmation with a strong side of physical touch.”^{[1]
X
Expert Source

Tali & Ophira Edut
Astrologers

Expert Interview} Because this sign is passionate and sensual, he’ll look for those same cues from you. Look directly into his eyes, smile warmly, and lean in closer when he’s talking to you. Be sure to nod along so he knows you’re paying attention.
- Playing with your hair is another great way to show off your flirty side–it’s a classic tactic for a reason.
- Boost his ego by laughing at his jokes and asking him questions. Aries guys love an ego boost!
- Don’t be afraid to lightly touch him on the arm when you’re interacting with him, as well.
- Reader Poll: We asked 3939 wikiHow readers about how Aries men typically flirt, and only 8% said by flexing his muscles or showing his skin. [Take Poll] So, look for other signs that he’s flirting with you back, such as making intense eye contact.

3

Be a little mysterious and reserved.

Download Article

Aries men are confident in their abilities and love a good chase. According to professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism, this sign loves a challenge.^{[2]
X
Expert Source

Angel Eyedealism
Professional Astrologer

Expert Interview} If you come out of the gates too strong, an Aries guy might be turned off, especially since he prefers to be the pursuer in relationships. Vedic astrologer Tara Divina agrees and suggests acting a bit coy with him.^{[3]
X
Expert Source

Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer

Expert Interview} Make him work a little for your affections before going all in!
- If you act reserved and mysterious at first, he'll be dying to know how you really feel.
- How to know if he’s flirting with you: If he’s asking you out on dates and messaging you frequently, he’s caught feelings! Aries men tend to be pretty unambiguous once they’re interested.
- Curious what it’s like to date an Aries man? Check out our forum discussion!

4

Give him genuine compliments.

Download Article

Aries love to hear how awesome they are. Garbis says this sign absolutely loves attention and compliments. Even basic stuff like “You’re so strong,” “You’re so amazing,” and “You’re so great” will win him over.^{[4]
X
Expert Source

Stina Garbis
Psychic Astrologer

Expert Interview} That said, don’t be afraid to get more specific and personal with your compliments! As long as it’s positive, he’ll love it.
- Tali & Ophira Edut agree, explaining that Aries loves to be put on a pedestal, but the compliments need to feel genuine. Try to make him feel like he’s royalty in your eyes.^{[5]
  X
  Expert Source
  
  Tali & Ophira Edut
  Astrologers
  
  Expert Interview} You might say things like:
  - “You look so stylish! And that shirt really brings out your eyes.”
  - “You have an amazing smile.”
  - “You were easily the best dancer on the floor tonight.”
- How to know if he’s flirting with you: He’ll compliment you in return. Aries guys aren’t shy when they see something they like.

5

Be clever.

Download Article

Aries men love when a clever partner challenges them. Divina says, “Aries usually want people that can keep up with them mentally.”^{[6]
X
Expert Source

Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer

Expert Interview} Dry humor, playful sarcasm, and a little wordplay are great ways to get his attention, so get your best one-liners ready. If you’re comfortable taking the leap, a sexy line is a bold move to get his adrenaline pumping.^{[7]
X
Research source} You might say things like:
- “What do you do for a living, besides looking sexy?”
- “There must be something wrong with my phone. Your number’s not in it yet.”
- “I might have some trouble not touching the artwork in front of me.”
- If you’re looking for clever things to say to him over text, check out this article for tips!

6

Give him a chance to show off.

Download Article

Aries love to prove that they’re the best. Aries men jump at the chance to shine in front of others, and they can be quite competitive, too. Give him opportunities to show off, but avoid directly competing with him. Garbis says, “I wouldn’t advise becoming a competitor to Aries and trying to do everything that they do, but rather, be a spectator or do something to complement them. Be their favorite fan or collaborator and cheer them on and they will love and adore you.”^{[8]
X
Expert Source

Stina Garbis
Psychic Astrologer

Expert Interview}
- If you’re out with friends, start a group competition like who can make the best cocktail or who has the best dance moves. Then, step back and let him do his thing.
- After it’s over, don’t forget to slip in a compliment about his strength or his physique!

7

Start a playful debate.

Download Article

Aries men enjoy lighthearted debates and clever banter. Ask him his opinion on an interesting topic and then playfully disagree with him. He'll love it. Keep things lighthearted, though. You want a fun debate, not a heated disagreement. Astrologer and spiritual coach Aliza Kelly says that passionate Aries can get emotional and angry easily, so avoid anything too contentious.^{[9]
X
Expert Source

Aliza Kelly
Astrologer and Spiritual Coach

Expert Interview} Keep things playful!
- You could ask him something silly like, “How do you feel about pineapple on pizza?” or "What do you think the best genre of music is?"
- If things do end up getting a little heated, don’t worry–Kelly says Aries guys get over things easily and don’t hold grudges.^{[10]
  X
  Expert Source
  
  Aliza Kelly
  Astrologer and Spiritual Coach
  
  Expert Interview}
- How to know if he’s flirting with you: He engages in your playful debates and the two of you end up in giggle fits together.

8

Surprise him with an adventure.

Download Article

Aries men seek out excitement and love trying new things. A fun, spontaneous activity can go a long way when you’re flirting with these guys. For example, you could present him with tickets to a concert or ditch the bar scene and go to that dance club across town. The bold approach can show him you’re willing to take risks. Show him you can keep up with his energy by throwing him off his game now and then.^{[11]
X
Research source}
- Astrologer Mechila Blake agrees, noting that Aries men love adventure and aren’t the type to just chill at home.^{[12]
  X
  Expert Source
  
  Mechila Blake
  Astrologer
  
  Expert Interview}
- “I noticed you come here often. How about we go to the bar across town that just opened?”
- “You mentioned that you really like that band, so I got you tickets to their next show this weekend.”
- How to know if he’s flirting with you: “[He] might stay up all night researching a cool new place and then excitedly suggest going there the next day,” Blake says.^{[13]
  X
  Expert Source
  
  Mechila Blake
  Astrologer and Tarot Reader
  
  Expert Interview}

9

Get him something unique.

Download Article

A one-of-a-kind gift is a great way to show him he's special to you. It doesn’t necessarily have to be expensive, but it should be unique to him. Aries men like to stand out, so if you notice a good conversation piece, pick it up and show your Aries you were thinking of him. They typically value experiences over things, but something sporty or hand-engraved is a good way to go.^{[14]
X
Research source}
- You’ll score some points if you get him a jersey with his favorite player’s number.
- An engraved pocket watch or necklace is a great choice.
- A unique mug or stein can be a simple yet striking conversation piece.^{[15]
  X
  Research source}

10

Be honest and sincere.

Download Article

An Aries man wants someone who is authentic. Kelly says Aries aren’t good at playing games or being deceptive; they prefer to be very clear and straightforward with how they feel.^{[16]
X
Expert Source

Aliza Kelly
Astrologer and Spiritual Coach

Expert Interview} They will appreciate receiving that same energy from you. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable with him, as well. For example, ask him deep questions about himself or share some of your dreams or goals with him.
- Get a conversation started by asking him what's on his bucket list.
- Try telling him about your most passionate hobby.
- Let him know what you want in life and show him that you have ambition.
- How to know if he’s into you: If you’re picking up on signals from him, you aren’t just imagining it or misinterpreting. Blake says that because Aries is so open with their feelings, you’ll know if he’s into you or not.^{[17]
  X
  Expert Source
  
  Mechila Blake
  Astrologer and Tarot Reader
  
  Expert Interview} He’ll make it super obvious!

Join the Discussion...

What is it like dating an Aries man?

WikiWombatChaser358

I've been seeing this really cute Aries guy recently and I'm wondering what Aries men are like in relationships. Are they good boyfriends? How do I make him fall for me?

Learn How to Attract an Aries Man with this Expert Series

Aries men are confident, charming, and bold. You will need to stand out to attract this fire sign, so we've put together this expert series to help you attract the Aries of your dreams.