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fake friends: what should I do?

WikiLionCaster153
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02/18/26 9:51pm
So I have a best friend that has been my bestie for a while. Recently, she started making fun of my body weight and being mean. I don't know what to do because every time she is mean, the next day she invites me over and treats me like the best person ever. She also started hanging out with these girls who are mean and I don't know if that is contributing. What should I do? PLEASE HELP
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Desiree Panlilio
Desiree Panlilio
Teen Life Coach
03/03/26 5:00pm
Wow, that is a difficult situation. If this person is your bestie, it is worth having an honest conversation. Share how you are feeling and how what she is saying about you affects you. Set a clear boundary and let her know that comments about your body are not okay. While her new friend group may be influencing her behavior, she is still responsible for her choices. Most importantly, protect your confidence. Real friendship should build you up, not slowly chip away at your self-worth. A great opportunity to purchase the book One Friend? Two Friends? Good Friend? Bad Friend?: Teen's Guide to Creating Lifelong Friendships. This book will help you understand and develop the friendships that encourage and inspire you.
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Crushingonzacharyherrera
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02/19/26 5:05pm
i HATE flaky friends like this, the behavior of the friend is toxic and manipulative. Its important to prioritize YOUR mental health. When the friend invites you over after being mean, DECLINE. Keep distance to stop that toxic cycle & dont go investing time in people who make you feel bad.You deserve respect.
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