How do I tell my parents I'm a therian?
I'm a therian, but I haven't told my parents yet and I'm not sure how they would react. I really want gear though, and I want to be in a place where I can safely be myself. Any suggestions?
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The best advice that I can give is to know whether your parents are the kind of people who would be receptive to therianthropy. You always want to be safe, no matter your situation.
If they are, I recommend talking about what therians are before straight up saying you are one. Try to explain how therians work, explaining that therianthropy is not a mental disorder; it is simply an identity. Try to be as calm and patient as possible when explaining, and if they aren't reacting well, bring it up another time.
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If they are, I recommend talking about what therians are before straight up saying you are one. Try to explain how therians work, explaining that therianthropy is not a mental disorder; it is simply an identity. Try to be as calm and patient as possible when explaining, and if they aren't reacting well, bring it up another time.
The advice I've always given is to, without telling them you are one, tell them what a therian is and ask them what they think about it in a very neutral way. That way, you can gauge their reaction and figure out whether or not it's a safe environment to tell them. Plus, if they know what it is, then in the future they'll be more accepting.
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There are a couple of ways I usually recommend. First, start by showing the community and expressing that connection and what it means to you. It’s less jarring to parents to start there. Second, I wouldn't sit them down to have a serious conversation. I would try to find a way to bring it up more casually in conversation. You could say something like, “There’s this group of people called therians who are connected to animals and feel like we are animals. It’s a way of expressing ourselves, and it’s not anything to be scared of, but it’s just who I am.” I find it works better when you work it into a conversation while already talking about animals or your group of friends or anything that you can relate to therianthropy.
And another thing I want to add is if it seems like it would be dangerous or detrimental to your mental health, it's probably best not to come out as a therian or tell folks that you are a therian. If you see any signs that they might make fun of you, it might hurt you, or it might make you feel bad about your identity, I would recommend waiting or just not telling them.
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And another thing I want to add is if it seems like it would be dangerous or detrimental to your mental health, it's probably best not to come out as a therian or tell folks that you are a therian. If you see any signs that they might make fun of you, it might hurt you, or it might make you feel bad about your identity, I would recommend waiting or just not telling them.
Well, first I would see if they act weird about therians or maybe just the idea of them. (this is coming from a non therian myself...so, sorry if the advice is bad.) If their chill with em, I would maybe like prepare some kinda script, make sure to read it aloud to yourself first to make sure it makes sense. When you're ready, I would sit them down and let them know. But pleeassseee be safe about it! Good luck!!!
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I would tell a safe friend or another safe person and everytime you go to there house, hide and bring your gear (if you have any) and mask materials. and slowly start being more open to your parents about gear and therianolgy. if they don't sapport, tell them a few days later that you quit being a therian while actully still being one.
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if they are super religious, weird about furries/lgbtq+ or dangerous (hopefully not lol) then dont tell them but otherwise pretend you have a therian friend and see how they react. if your at a sleepover text them about it (explain misconceptions so they dont crash) at the start so they have 2 days to get over it and when yoy come back you can talk. hope this hhelped
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Be safe, but if you feel okay telling them, see how they react to that kind of stuff, before telling them.
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I'm a Therian myself and my parents don't support that so I hide it, (Which is prob not healthy for me lol) If your parents don't support it just say you want tails and masks for cosplay (That's how I got my gear) And since Therians look like they cosplay you might get the gear you need. (I'm not trying to seem rude what so ever I was just saying what worked for me.) I hope this helped!
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