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A Scorpio woman can be wild one minute and cool, calm, and collected the next. Mysterious and unpredictable, this sign is one of the most alluring out there! If you want to make a Scorpio woman chase you, you'll have to intrigue her just as much as she intrigues you. Read on for advice from expert astrologers and a dating coach about how to capture a Scorpio woman's heart—and which signs may be more compatible with Scorpios in the first place.
How do you attract a Scorpio woman?
Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism says that one of the best ways to get a Scorpio woman to chase you is to be mysterious. Share yourself in bits and pieces to create a sense of intrigue. Scorpio women are also attracted to people who are authentic, reliable and who embrace their sexuality.
Be mysterious to keep her guessing. "A little mystery goes a long way in a Scorpio relationship," astrologers Tali and Ophira Edut point out.[1]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview "There has to be something intriguing," Eyedealism agrees. "If you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep pulling on the yarn forever. Don't give it all up right away. Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued, and they will obsess over you because they always have to obsess."[2]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview When you spend time together, reveal things incrementally and avoid oversharing. Your crush will be super intrigued and will probably start reaching out more.
If you've got big vacation plans next week, don't tell her the full itinerary. Tell her where you're going and let her ask questions like, "What're you going to do there?"
Be the first to end a text conversation sometimes, even if it's going really well. Say something like, "It's been so fun catching up but I've got to head out. I'm off to the movies :)" She'll wonder what you're going to see and be excited to talk again.
Scorpio women are pretty mysterious themselves. You'll really catch her attention if you're just as elusive as she is in your conversations.
Tali and Ophira Edut are astrologers, intuitive advisors, and best-selling authors, also known as the AstroTwins. They are long-time resident astrologers at ELLE magazine and founders of the popular horoscope website Astrostyle.
Angel Eyedealism is an astrologer based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, she specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography.
Julianne Cantarella is a dating coach and the CEO and President of New Jersey's Matchmaker. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in helping women heal from a heartbreak and create healthy long-term relationships.
Aliza Kelly is an astrologer, author, and host based in New York City. She currently writes biweekly columns in The Cut and Marie Claire.
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Be as fiercely independent as she is. Wanting to hang out too much too soon may turn her off. Especially at first, save plans with her for special occasions and keep up with your own hobbies, interests, and goals. A Scorpio woman usually has many potential love interests chasing after her. Set yourself apart by being a little less available.[4]XResearch source
Make plans with your friends and family throughout the week and schedule fun adventures that will add to your life. Check out that hot new restaurant in your city or go mountain biking on a new trail.
Keep making moves towards your goals. Even if you'd rather hang out with the Scorpio you like, don't neglect prepping for work each week or keeping up with your side projects.
Try not to text her too much while you're busy. Wait until you get home or fill her in next time you see each other in person. It'll add to the mystery and make her wonder what you're up to.
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Be true to yourself. Scorpios are drawn to real and honest people so don't pretend to be something that you're not, even if you're just trying to impress her. As a highly intuitive sign (Scorpios are often considered the psychics of the Zodiac), she'll see right through what you're doing. Show her who you truly are and she'll be super intrigued by your unique qualities and genuine nature.[5]XResearch source
If you're on a museum date and she asks what you think of a painting, be honest if you're not a big fan. Say something like, "I usually really like landscapes, but I wish this one had more vibrant colors."
Tell her about your true passions, even if you think they're a little embarrassing. Maybe you're obsessed with tending to your apartment plants. That's exactly the kind of thing that will make you stand out and charm her.
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Look your best when she's around. Scorpios are attracted to great fashion sense and signature scents. When you're spending time together, put in the extra effort to look and feel your best. Wear clothes that always make you feel confident and sexy. Wear perfume or cologne to appear extra attractive. The Scorpio you've got your eye on will be impressed by your stylish and put-together appearance, and she'll likely want to see you again soon.
There's no right or wrong way to dress. If fashion isn't really your thing, wear something that makes you feel good.
Before your dates, take a shower, brush your hair, and spritz on your favorite scent. If you don't have one, try a scented lotion or even just some nice-smelling deodorant.
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Embrace your sexuality. "Scorpio is the sign of intimacy," Eyedealism says, "because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside…and the sexual act isn't shallow."[6]XExpert SourceAngel Eyedealism Professional AstrologerExpert Interview Scorpios are known for their passionate sexual desire. Though everyone is different, it's likely that the Scorpio woman you like will value your physical connection. As you get to know her, be confident in your own sexuality and, if you're comfortable, be willing to experiment. To strengthen your connection, ask questions and be attentive to her needs in the bedroom. Have fun while you're away from each other by sending occasional flirty, sexy text messages.[7]XResearch source
After a fun date night, text her something like, "Last night was amazing. I'm still thinking about kissing you."
Remember that a Scorpio woman, like all signs, needs to be respected. Avoid objectifying her or making her feel like you only like her for her sexual side. Scorpio women want to connect with you emotionally, too.
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Plan romantic and intimate dates. Choose locations that give you plenty of time to relate one-on-one. Scorpios are intensely private, and she may feel exposed if you take her out to a crowded restaurant or bar. Opt for more secluded locations to make her feel comfortable and interested in getting to know you.
Make a reservation at a restaurant with an intimate back patio.
Go to a park with a beautiful and secluded nature trail.
Scorpios are interested in making deep connections with the people they like. Environments like this can give you the chance to get to know each other on a more intimate level.
You don't have to spend a lot of money to woo a Scorpio. As the Edut twins point out, "Scorpios also like to just be around their partner, just lie around, not shower or just listen to music and smoke cigarettes all day or play the guitar."[8]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview There's romance in simplicity!
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Engage in meaningful conversations. Passionate and intense, Scorpios are interested in deep connections. Talk about things that matter, to both you and the world, in order to really get a Scorpio woman chasing after you. Avoid shallow small talk and always be honest. She'll keep coming back to talk to you if she sees you as a genuine person with interesting things to say.[9]XResearch source
Talk about philosophy, politics, art, or any other subject that's intellectually stimulating. Be sure to ask her what she thinks and really listen to what she has to say. It'll likely be profound.
Take her on dates that encourage interesting discussions. Visit a museum, go to a play, or attend a book reading at a local book store. Get coffee or drinks afterward so you can talk about what you thought of the experience.
Don't be afraid to disagree. A Scorpio's fiery personality is able to shine in a good (respectful) debate. Plus, she'll be super impressed if you can keep up with her.
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Give her genuine and supportive compliments. A Scorpio needs some encouragement sometimes. Though they may not reveal it on the outside, their emotional and highly intelligent minds can lead them to doubt themselves sometimes.[10]XResearch source To get her out of her head and make her remember how amazing she is, tell her why she's so special.
Maybe you love her sense of humor. Say something like, "You make the funniest observations. I could people watch with you all day."
Perhaps you appreciate her unique insight in conversations. Try, "You always make me see things from a different perspective. I want to hear your opinion on everything."
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Treat her with respect. A Scorpio has no time for someone who doesn't treat her like an equal. Respect her point of view, listen to what she has to say, and be mindful of how you flirt with her so she doesn't feel objectified. If she's confident that you value her as a person, she'll want to get to know you more. You'll also stand out among her many admirers.[11]XResearch source
When she expresses her opinion in conversation, praise her intellect. Say, "That's an amazing point. I've never thought of it that way" or "You always ask the important questions." A Scorpio wants to know that you respect and value her intelligence.
Compliment her personality, fashion sense, or sense of humor when you flirt with her. Say something like, "I love that leopard print dress. You're always the most fashionable person in the room."
A Scorpio woman wants to be sure that you like her for more than just her looks. Surface-level flattery may bore her and cause her to lose interest in the chase.
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Prove that you're dependable. A Scorpio won't bother chasing after someone who's flaky. "Scorpios are a bit of a slow burn in terms of building intimacy and building honesty and establishing…a solid foundation," notes astrologer Aliza Kelly. "Once that is established, Scorpios are incredibly loyal and incredibly trustworthy."[12]XExpert SourceAliza Kelly Astrologer and Spiritual CoachExpert Interview Show your Scorpio crush that you're worthy by following through on your promises and being there for her. Your loyalty will encourage her to let her guard down and go after you.[13]XResearch source
When you make dinner plans, make sure you're there on time. If you must reschedule, let her know with plenty of time in advance and be sure to set a new date. Otherwise, she may feel disrespected.
If you offer to do something for her, like dropping off a gift for her or doing her a favor, make sure you follow through.
Pay attention to her and stay by her side when you're out and about together. Most of the time, Scorpios won't stick around if they realize their partner is disloyal or interested in someone else.
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Practice patience as you get to know each other. As the Edut twins acknowledge, Scorpios are "secretive and mysterious. It really takes a long time for them to show who they are fully."[14]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview At first, your Scorpio crush may even play hard to get. If you notice that she takes some extra time to respond (but always does) or seems like she's testing you, she's likely just trying to determine if you're worthy of her trust. Keep seeking her out and make regular plans with her. As time goes on and she sees that you're not going anywhere, that's when she'll feel comfortable enough to start chasing you.
If she doesn't seem interested in talking when you see her or she doesn't want to make plans, she's likely not interested. If that's the case, it's best to respect her space.
Sensitive Scorpios, like all water signs, are intensely emotional beings. A Scorpio woman will be innately sensitive to your emotions, and she'll likely feel her own feelings very deeply. "They're also observant," the Edut twins note. "You might think that they're not watching you, but they're paying attention to every detail."[15]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview
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Intuitive Going hand in hand with her emotional sensitivity, a Scorpio woman often knows what you're thinking before you've even said it. Scorpios are deeply intuitive and empathetic, and they can tap into their wellspring of inner wisdom with ease.
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Secretive Intensely private and slow to open up, the Scorpio is known for being the most secretive sign in the zodiac. "They are the most distrustful sign," the Edut twins say. "So if they show anything that indicates trust in you, that means they are serious about you. And…if the Scorpio reveals their secrets, then that means they're very serious about you."[16]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview
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Determined Scorpios have been called "stubborn," which isn't untrue—but the flipside of this is they're also hardworking, determined, and loyal. While a Scorpio woman may be tough to pin down, once she's in a relationship, she's sure to stay committed.
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Intense Scorpios tend to be very passionate and intense, especially in relationships. "Scorpios need to know that you are with them," the Edut twins observe. "It’s like, you want to get lost in each other, you want to feel like 'No one else in the world understands us like we do each other.' It has to feel elevated, special, magical, divine: 'We are each other's soulmates.'"[17]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview
While your Scorpio crush may be turned off by clingy behavior to begin with, once in a committed relationship, Scorpios tend to be possessive and intense—even verging on jealous now and then.
While any sign can make it work with a Scorpio woman, there are certain signs that are believed to be more compatible with Scorpios than others…and a few who might find dating a Scorpio pretty challenging! We asked the Edut twins which signs complement a Scorpio well, and which ones may face a few more hurdles in a relationship. Here's what they said:[18]XExpert SourceTali & Ophira Edut AstrologersExpert Interview
I went on a date with someone recently and they told me they were a Scorpio and idk if that's a red flag or not. I've heard that Scorpios are obsessive and difficult to be in a relationship with, is that facts or nah? I kinda wanna go on a second date but idk if I should so pls help
As a Scorpio myself, I’d say dating a Scorpio isn’t necessarily "hard," but it can be intense. We value loyalty and trust the most, so if those things are broken, the relationship can be difficult. But if you're open, patient, and not afraid of vulnerability, you’ll find that dating a Scorpio can be incredibly rewarding.
Scorpio is an obsessive sign. They're looking for someone to obsess over and they're going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty to them. For example, they may play hard to get or act obsequious. If they sense that you're not matching their intense energy, they're gonna lose interest. Scorpio is also a very sensual sign, so if they not sensing that you're sexually interested in them, they will lose interest. So you would definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy with a Scorpio in order for them to fall for you. Scorpios want to dive deep into issues and topics. They're not a superficial sign, so they'll be turned off if you're very shallow. They like intensity and passion. If they don't feel engaged, enthralled, sexual, and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you. So there has to be something intriguing. But also, if you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep them pulling on the yarn forever. So don't give it all up right away! Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsess over you because they always have to obsess.
If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
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It's not how much you share that matters as much as how you share it. Whenever you're on a date, you should always be as genuine and true to yourself as possible so your date can get to know the real you. With that in mind, don't feel like you have to them everything about yourself—it's okay to keep some details private, especially on a first date!
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Be mysterious to keep her guessing. "A little mystery goes a long way in a Scorpio relationship," astrologers Tali and Ophira Edut point out.[1] "There has to be something intriguing," Eyedealism agrees. "If you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep pulling on the yarn forever. Don't give it all up right away. Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued, and they will obsess over you because they always have to obsess."[2] When you spend time together, reveal things incrementally and avoid oversharing. Your crush will be super intrigued and will probably start reaching out more.
Be as fiercely independent as she is. Wanting to hang out too much too soon may turn her off. Especially at first, save plans with her for special occasions and keep up with your own hobbies, interests, and goals. A Scorpio woman usually has many potential love interests chasing after her. Set yourself apart by being a little less available.[4]
Be true to yourself. Scorpios are drawn to real and honest people so don't pretend to be something that you're not, even if you're just trying to impress her. As a highly intuitive sign (Scorpios are often considered the psychics of the Zodiac), she'll see right through what you're doing. Show her who you truly are and she'll be super intrigued by your unique qualities and genuine nature.[5]
Look your best when she's around. Scorpios are attracted to great fashion sense and signature scents. When you're spending time together, put in the extra effort to look and feel your best. Wear clothes that always make you feel confident and sexy. Wear perfume or cologne to appear extra attractive. The Scorpio you've got your eye on will be impressed by your stylish and put-together appearance, and she'll likely want to see you again soon.
Embrace your sexuality. "Scorpio is the sign of intimacy," Eyedealism says, "because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside…and the sexual act isn't shallow."[6] Scorpios are known for their passionate sexual desire. Though everyone is different, it's likely that the Scorpio woman you like will value your physical connection. As you get to know her, be confident in your own sexuality and, if you're comfortable, be willing to experiment. To strengthen your connection, ask questions and be attentive to her needs in the bedroom. Have fun while you're away from each other by sending occasional flirty, sexy text messages.[7]
Plan romantic and intimate dates. Choose locations that give you plenty of time to relate one-on-one. Scorpios are intensely private, and she may feel exposed if you take her out to a crowded restaurant or bar. Opt for more secluded locations to make her feel comfortable and interested in getting to know you.
Engage in meaningful conversations. Passionate and intense, Scorpios are interested in deep connections. Talk about things that matter, to both you and the world, in order to really get a Scorpio woman chasing after you. Avoid shallow small talk and always be honest. She'll keep coming back to talk to you if she sees you as a genuine person with interesting things to say.[9]
Give her genuine and supportive compliments. A Scorpio needs some encouragement sometimes. Though they may not reveal it on the outside, their emotional and highly intelligent minds can lead them to doubt themselves sometimes.[10] To get her out of her head and make her remember how amazing she is, tell her why she's so special.
Treat her with respect. A Scorpio has no time for someone who doesn't treat her like an equal. Respect her point of view, listen to what she has to say, and be mindful of how you flirt with her so she doesn't feel objectified. If she's confident that you value her as a person, she'll want to get to know you more. You'll also stand out among her many admirers.[11]
Prove that you're dependable. A Scorpio won't bother chasing after someone who's flaky. "Scorpios are a bit of a slow burn in terms of building intimacy and building honesty and establishing…a solid foundation," notes astrologer Aliza Kelly. "Once that is established, Scorpios are incredibly loyal and incredibly trustworthy."[12] Show your Scorpio crush that you're worthy by following through on your promises and being there for her. Your loyalty will encourage her to let her guard down and go after you.[13]
Practice patience as you get to know each other. As the Edut twins acknowledge, Scorpios are "secretive and mysterious. It really takes a long time for them to show who they are fully."[14] At first, your Scorpio crush may even play hard to get. If you notice that she takes some extra time to respond (but always does) or seems like she's testing you, she's likely just trying to determine if you're worthy of her trust. Keep seeking her out and make regular plans with her. As time goes on and she sees that you're not going anywhere, that's when she'll feel comfortable enough to start chasing you.
Julianne CantarellaJulianne Cantarella is a Dating Coach, Certified Life Coach, Licensed Social Worker, and the CEO and President of New Jersey's Matchmaker. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in helping women heal from a heartbreak and create healthy long-term relationships. Julianne created a comprehensive transformational date coaching program From First Date to Soulmate™ that has helped hundreds of women find love. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work (BSW) from Ramapo College of New Jersey and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from Fordham University. Julianne has contributed to numerous media such as Your Tango Online Magazine, 24Seven Wellness Magazine, and Talk of The Town Magazine. She has also been featured as a relationship expert on CBS, iHeartRadio, and PBS “This Emotional Life Project.”
