What Is My Ick?

Let us guess your biggest dating dealbreaker!

Everyone has a few dating "icks"—the little traits or habits other people have that are instant turn-offs for you. But what's your major ick, the one you feel so strongly about that it would actually be a dealbreaker for you when it comes to dating someone?

Just answer these questions, and we'll tell you what we think gives you the biggest ick.

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Questions Overview

1. Which of these behaviors would bother you most on a first date?
  1. They show up 15 minutes late.
  2. They monologue about themselves the whole time.
  3. They're rude or short-tempered with our server.
  4. They don't talk about deep or interesting topics.
  5. They complain about everything (the food, the weather, etc).
  6. They're too shy to even talk to me properly.
2. What type of aesthetic do you find most attractive?
  1. Classy and polished, but not too flashy.
  2. Bold and trendy! They should stand out.
  3. Low-key and chill. A casual look is best!
  4. I don't care, as long as it's authentic to them.
3. Which of these Valentine's Day gifts would you want the most?
  1. A handwritten love letter.
  2. A useful tech gadget I've been wanting.
  3. A weekend trip somewhere exciting.
  4. A first edition copy of a book I love.
4. What do you think is most important to have in a relationship?
  1. Shared values
  2. Similar goals
  3. Intellectual compatibility
  4. Physical chemistry
5. Which of these date nights would you enjoy most?
  1. Dinner at a nice restaurant.
  2. A sunset picnic with a view.
  3. A late-night trip to the arcade.
  4. A cozy movie night in.
6. Switching gears! What makes you a major catch?
  1. I'm loyal, reliable, & dependable.
  2. I'm a go-getter & high-achiever.
  3. I'm incredibly kind & compassionate.
  4. I'm free-spirited & always down for an adventure.
  5. I'm an intelligent deep thinker.
  6. I stay positive even in tough times.
  7. I'm humble & down-to-earth.
  8. I'm really confident & charismatic.
7. Are you more of an introvert or an extrovert?
  1. Introvert.
  2. Extrovert.
  3. I'm somewhere in between!
8. What do you crave most in life?
  1. Stability
  2. Success
  3. Kindness
  4. Adventure
  5. Knowledge
9. Where would you want to live with your future partner?
  1. A luxurious mansion.
  2. A high-rise apartment in the city.
  3. A sunshine-y beach house.
  4. A nice family home in the suburbs.
10. Finally, what's one thing you do that might be a red flag to others?
  1. I don't take enough risks.
  2. I'm a bit of a workaholic.
  3. I put others before myself too much.
  4. I'm kinda reckless or impulsive.
  5. I can be hypercritical.
  6. I'm a little naive sometimes.

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All About "The Ick" & Dating Dealbreakers

In dating terms, "the ick" is that sudden feeling of disgust you might get toward a partner or potential partner over something small. For example, you might get the ick if someone chews loudly on a date.[1] Some icks are more trivial (like wearing dorky shoes), while others might hint at actual incompatibilities in the relationship (like being flaky or perpetually late). In this quiz, we take a guess at your biggest ick—the one that actually might convince you to end a relationship or not pursue someone further.

If you're curious to learn more about the ick, check out our lists on things that give men the ick and things that give women the ick! And in the meantime, here are a few of the most common icks out there:

  • Being rude to servers at restaurants.
  • Chewing with their mouth open.
  • Having poor hygiene or smelling bad.
  • Being a know-it-all.
  • Lack of ambition.
  • Scrolling on their phone during a date.
  • Being too obsessed with social media.
  • Acting cocky or entitled.
  • Being too stingy with money.[2]
  • Having a very dirty/cluttered living space.
  • Double or triple texting.
  • Talking over you on a date.
  • Checking other people out in front of you.

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References

  1. ↑ https://www.georgetown.edu/news/ask-a-professor-the-neuroscience-of-the-ick/
  2. ↑ https://www.elle.eg/10-most-common-dating-icks-of-2024/