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Emyli Lovz

Dating and Relationship Coach

Emyli Lovz is a dating and relationship coach for men based in San Francisco, CA. With 14 years of experience, Emyli is the co-founder of emlovz alongside her husband Thomas, whom she met during a 100-date experiment at UC Berkeley. Research findings from the experiment and the data collected from male and female clients over the past 14 years are the foundation for her coaching program, Dating Decoded. Now with a team of 10 coaches, emlovz is dedicated to helping men and women find and maintain loving, healthy, and lasting relationships and empowering them to achieve their dating and relationship goals. In addition to Dating Decoded, she also offers Relationships Decoded, helping people to not only find a long-term partner but an enduring, thriving relationship. Since 2012, Emyli has guided thousands of men, and her work has been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Newsweek, USA Today, LA Weekly, Maxim, and more.

Education

  • Bachelor's degree, University of California - Berkeley,
  • Post Baccalaureate, Psychology and Counseling, University of California

Professional Achievements

  • Creator of The MegaDating Method
  • 110,000+ social followers, 10M+ video views (growing by 350% annually)
  • emlovz.com has 400,000 annual readers
  • Featured on The TODAY Show (3M+ viewers) and profiled in Forbes, Business Insider, Newsweek, USA Today, Maxim, Bustle, WIRED, LA Weekly, and the Chicago Tribune
  • Has a forthcoming book

Certifications & Organizations

  • Certified as a Thriving Relationship Coach through The Center for Thriving Relationships

Favorite Piece of Advice

When starting out on a journey, do not seek advice from those who have never left home (Rumi). This means, do not take advice from friends, family, coworkers, therapists, or coaches who do not have the thing you want (aka a healthy, happy, loving relationship).

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Forum Comments (12)

Tips on how to play hard to get
I wouldn't play games, but I would make myself busy. Usually, I tell people to do this by mega dating. The reason being, sometimes we get hyper-fixated on one person, and then we do weird stuff. For example, when you get too excited about somebody, you might say, “Oh, I told my mom about you.” That can scare them away. It's better if you can keep yourself busy, so that you can actually stay present.
Tips on how to make small talk
To keep small talk more enticing, stick to topics that are emotionally compelling – favorites, family, pets, or hobbies. Don't talk about things that are cerebral, like work or school. Never talk about your health conditions or focus on negative things. Try to ask about things that are going to make the other person feel good, and focus on positivity.
What are the best ways to impress a girl?
The big thing is listen, and remember what she says. Use that to plan dates that are compelling to her. Be a leader – determine the date and location, invite her on the date, and pay the bill. Also, be a gentleman. Walk on the outside of the street where the car is and offer her your jacket. Listen more than you speak, and ask good questions to get to know her.
What do you think are the flirtiest emojis?
The ones that come to mind for me are the:
wink emoji 😉
heart emoji ❤️
eggplant emoji 🍆
peach emoji 🍑
I like multiple girls. How do I decide between them?
Try not to feel pressured to make a decision on a timeline. I teach my clients to date multiple people at the same time, so they can compare and contrast. A lot of times, we are programmed to choose heartbreak and to choose dysfunction, especially if we saw it as children. It's helpful to date enough people that you can really identify patterns and make sure that your decisions are based upon your own feelings, not the feelings of others or what you think you should feel.

Ideally, the person you choose to keep dating is someone with whom it feels effortless, and like you've known them forever. You want to feel that you can be yourself and that you have lots in common. Those are all really good signs. If you're with someone where there are very high highs and very low lows, that's not a good sign. If they put you down or criticize you in any way or can't communicate well, those are all bad signs. You want to feel at peace and feel safe.
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