How to Make Sure a Scorpio Guy Misses You

Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism shares advice for making a Scorpio guy miss you like crazy

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Amber Crain

Last Updated: May 27, 2026 Fact Checked

Whether you’re currently dating a Scorpio man or you’re trying to get him back, making him think about you when you aren’t around is a great way to get him to miss you. Scorpio men are known for being mysterious and secretive, but as water signs, they’re also very emotional beings–if you can get into his head and make him miss you, he won’t be able to deny his feelings! For this article, we partnered with professional astrologers so we could explain exactly how to make a Scorpio guy miss you like crazy.

Best Ways to Make a Scorpio Man Miss You

Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism suggests making yourself a little less available to him to get his attention and make him miss you. For example, try waiting a few hours before responding to his texts. When you do hang out, be affectionate with him and he’ll definitely think about you later when he’s alone!

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Wait before texting him back.

Don’t ignore him, but try taking a few hours in between messages. Eyedealism says that Scorpios don’t like to be ignored, but waiting a little while to respond can be a good way to get him thinking about you.^{[1]
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Expert Interview} If he texts or calls you out of the blue, act like you’re busy, and only respond after a couple of hours. He’ll probably be thinking about you the whole time, and he might even wonder if you’re off having fun with someone else.
- If you feel like you’re always the one to reach out first, take a break from that and let him contact you instead. He’ll probably have a moment when he realizes that you two haven’t talked in a little bit, and it will make him miss you even more.
Meet the wikiHow Experts

Angel Eyedealism is an astrologer based in Manhattan. She has nearly 30 years of experience and has been featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and more.

Tali & Ophira Edut, also known as the AstroTwins, are astrologers and best-selling authors. They’ve published over 20 books, including their newest, The Astrology Advantage (2024).

Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 30 years of professional experience. She’s also the author of Meditations for Your Sign (2025) and Astrology for Real Relationships (2020).

Aliza Kelly is an astrologer and author based in New York City. She’s been featured in The New York Times and is a recurring guest on The Drew Barrymore Show.

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Limit what you post on social media.

Scorpios are drawn to mysterious people. Eyedealism suggests creating an air of mystery around yourself to really get his attention.^{[2]
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Expert Interview} Instead of sharing everything online, keep a few things to yourself. When you do post, go with vague details that don’t tell the whole story. If he’s confused about what you’re doing or who you’re hanging out with, he’ll probably start ruminating about you.
- Eyedealism says Scorpios tend to borderline stalk the object of their desire, and social media makes that easy to do. Creating an air of mystery will leave him wondering and wanting more!^{[3]
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- For instance, maybe you head out for a beach day with friends. Instead of posting a group photo, take a quick pic of your feet in the sand and post it to your story without a location tag. He’ll know you’re at the beach, but he won’t know exactly where or who you’re with.

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Catch his eye with a new look.

A fun makeover is sure to capture a Scorpio man’s attention. Try out a new hairstyle, a new hair color, or a fun new makeup look. Head out for a shopping spree and try on a few new outfits that make you feel great. When you two meet up again, he’ll be dazzled by your new look, and he’ll probably think about you a lot more once you leave.
- If you want to buy some new clothes without breaking the bank, hit up a thrift store near you.
- Astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut say this sign is extremely observant. “You might think he isn’t watching you, but he’s paying attention to every detail.”^{[4]
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  Expert Interview} That includes your style and overall look!
- Want to learn more about Scorpios? Check out this full personality breakdown for everything you need to know!

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Remind him of the good times you’ve had.

Scorpio men are often nostalgic and emotional. As a water sign, Scorpios are ruled by their emotions (although they usually try to hide this fact about themselves). If you two have shared some good times together, send him a text or a pic about them as a fun reminder. The more he thinks about all the fun stuff you’ve done in the past, the more he’ll start to miss you and want to create new memories.
- Keep it casual by saying something like, “Was clearing out old photos and stumbled across this pic of us in Peru. Remember how fun that trip was?”
- How do Scorpios act when they’re into you, but trying to fight their feelings? Check out our expert-backed article for the full scoop!

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Be affectionate.

Physical intimacy is very important to Scorpio men. When you’re with him, try to break the touch barrier, and pat him on the arm or hold his hand as much as possible. Chances are, your touch will linger on his skin, and he’ll be stuck thinking about you for the rest of the day.
- If you two have already been sleeping together, don’t underestimate the power of some good makeup sex. Scorpios in particular value physicality, and it can be a great way to reconnect after a fight (or even a breakup).
- Eyedealism also says that sex is never shallow for a Scorpio; this is a very sexual sign. If he’s not sensing your sexual interest in him, he’s likely to lose interest fast.^{[5]
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Have deep conversations with him.

Show off your emotional intelligence to get him thinking about you later. Astrologer Jessica Lanyadoo says that when you two are together, try to go beyond small talk. Really dive into things that you might not chat about with other people.^{[6]
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Expert Interview} Eyedealism agrees, noting that Scorpios are intense and passionate people.^{[7]
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Expert Interview} If he has his guard up, it might take him a little while to trust you, but he’ll appreciate the fact that you’re trying and it will make him want you more than ever.
- For instance, you two could talk about your childhoods, your past relationships, your friends, or even your goals for the future.
- According to Eyedealism, it’s especially meaningful if a Scorpio shares personal secrets with you. They see secrets as weapons and would never share them with anyone they don’t trust.^{[8]
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- Reader Poll: We asked 508 wikiHow readers tell tell us the best way to start a convo with Scorpios, and only 8% of them recommended small talk as a way to connect. [Take Poll] This could be because Scorpios are known for appreciating deep conversations more than lighter topics.

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Check in with him about his emotions.

It can be hard to read Scorpio men sometimes, so you may have to ask. Scorpios don’t wear their hearts on their sleeves—in fact, they tend to bottle up their emotions so that other people don’t think they’re weak. According to Eyedealism, Scorpios meticulously mask their emotions, but they’re hiding an ocean of vulnerability beneath that controlled exterior.^{[9]
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Expert Interview} If you want to get closer to your Scorpio man, check in with him about how he’s feeling often so he knows he can trust you.
- Eyedealism recommends doing what you can to make him feel relaxed and safe around you to help him open up.^{[10]
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- You could say something like, “You’ve seemed a little down lately. Are you okay? Is there anything you wanted to talk about?”
- Be patient with him! Astrologer Aliza Kelly says it’s really hard for Scorpios to open up–it usually takes them a while.^{[11]
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Apologize if you’re in the wrong.

If you’ve hurt your Scorpio man, it’s important that you own it. We all mess up in relationships sometimes, and it’s totally fine to admit your mistakes. If you can explain how you messed up and sincerely apologize, a Scorpio man is much more likely to respect you (and therefore think about you a lot more). The Eduts suggest doing your best to make him feel safe and show up for him consistently–rebuilding that trust is essential.^{[12]
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- For example, if you weren’t making enough time for him in the relationship, you might say, “I wasn’t making you a priority, and I’m sorry for that. I understand why that hurt you, and it won’t happen again.”
- Are Scorpios hard to date? Check out this wikiHow forum post to get first-hand accounts of what it’s like to be in a relationship with this zodiac sign.

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Maintain your independence.

Go out with your friends and keep up with your hobbies. Scorpio men really value a partner that can stand on their own without relying on them for everything. While it’s fine to lean on your partner every once in a while, be sure to show the Scorpio man that you don’t need his help—it’s guaranteed to make him think about you when you’re gone.^{[13]
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- A good way to do this is to tell him about your busy schedule. Something like, “Oh, I can’t hang out on Monday because I’m going out with friends,” will make him feel like you have your own life.

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Be loyal to him.

It’s fine to play hard to get, but don’t try to make him jealous. The Eduts say it’s important for a Scorpio man to feel like you’re with him and only him.^{[14]
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Expert Interview} Lanyadoo agrees, noting that Scorpio men value loyalty and honesty, and they don’t appreciate it when someone goes behind their back.^{[15]
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Expert Interview} As you work on making him miss you, be careful when toeing the line of your relationship, and be sure that he’s the only man in your life.^{[16]
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- Making a Scorpio man jealous can actually push him away instead of bringing him closer.
- Avoid playing the jealousy card on purpose to get a rise out of Scorpio; he won't react well. Eyedealism recommends looking him straight in the eye and letting him know you’re a trustworthy and solid person.^{[17]
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- The Eduts say it’s important for a Scorpio to feel like your connection to him is elevated and special.^{[18]
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  Expert Interview} Being disloyal will make it really hard for him to believe you two are meant to be.

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Give him some space.

It’s counterintuitive, but leaving him alone can make him miss you a lot. It’s totally normal to want to see your partner often, but try to give him some alone time, too. Scorpios are usually very independent and introspective, and he probably won’t appreciate it if you get clingy or overbearing. Instead, take advantage of the nights he wants to spend alone by going out and doing your own thing. There’s a good chance that he’ll realize that he misses you while you’re out on your own.^{[19]
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- The more you can accept his need for space, the better. If you’re accepting of his needs, he’s sure to fall for you even harder.

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I want to make him miss me. What are your tips?

Laura Bilotta
Dating Coach & Matchmaker

If you really want someone to miss you, the key thing is to not send text after text, or phone call after phone call. Avoid too much contact. You have to let them miss you, and in order for them to miss you, you have to keep a bit of space. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, so keep them a little time on their own, and let them wonder what you are up to.

When you do reach out, don’t act desperate! Keep your texts or phone calls brief and to the point. It’s important to carry on maintaining your own life. While you’re with them, don’t give them too much information about yourself. You want to keep them guessing and leave a little mystery.

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How do you know if a Scorpio man still loves you?

Angel Eyedealism
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Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

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You'll know if he's jealous and obsessive. He will show you his underbelly at the smallest sign of interest. Their vulnerability is a cherished prize they usually keep hidden, so if the guy shows this side to you, know that he still loves you.

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When is a Scorpio man serious about you?

Angel Eyedealism
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Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

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If the guy is serious about you, he's probably going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty and see if he's right in obsessing over you.

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