The Top 14 Negative Traits of the Scorpio Zodiac Sign

Astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut go over some of the biggest challenges Scorpios face

No zodiac sign is utterly flawless, including the passionate, intuitive, and ambitious Scorpio. According to astrology, the Scorpio zodiac sign can be prone to jealousy, paranoia, stubbornness, and defensiveness. Whether you’re a Scorpio looking for advice on how to deal with the more negative traits of your sign or there’s a Scorpio in your life you want to understand better, we’re here to help. We partnered with astrology experts to uncover Scorpio’s weaknesses, complete with tips on how to successfully deal with them.

What are some of Scorpio’s bad traits?

Astrologers Tali & Ophira Edut note that Scorpios are secretive, making it hard for them to open up and trust others. They can also be prone to possessiveness, jealousy, and paranoia, and can come across as intense and obsessive. Scorpios can be very stubborn, unwilling to let go of grudges, and vengeful when wronged.

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They can be possessive.

  1. Fear of loss causes Scorpio to get easily attached to people (and things).
    According to professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism, Scorpio is the sign of obsession.[1] Scorpio rules the 8th house of the zodiac, which is connected to intimacy and shared resources. That means Scorpios can get pretty possessive (often because they’re afraid to lose anyone). In relationships, Scorpio can be especially clingy; they don’t like being separated from their partner. They really just want to ensure their loved ones are safe, but it may come across as overbearing.[2]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Staying level-headed is the best way to manage possessiveness. Communicate your feelings to your partner and talk openly about your needs to build trust (so possessiveness stops ruling your actions).[3]
    • Ultimately, Scorpio’s possessiveness comes from a well-meaning place—but it can leave partners feeling stifled. Remember that it’s okay to let go a little and trust your partner to be as devoted to you as you are to them.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 1116 wikiHow readers who are Scorpios what type of relationship they look for, and 63% of them said one that’s committed, serious, and long-term. [Take Poll]

    Meet the wikiHow Experts

    Tali & Ophira Edut, also known as the AstroTwins, are astrologers and founders of the horoscope website Astrostyle.

    Angel Eyedealism is a professional astrologer with nearly 30 years of astrology experience. She specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography.

    Lisa Stardust is an astrologer, tarot reader, and life coach with over 15 years of experience.

    Aliza Kelly is an astrologer and spiritual coach. Her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, CNN, and more.

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They can come across as intimidating.

  1. Scorpio’s mysteriousness can make them seem unapproachable.
    Normally, they appear calm and collected on the surface and keep their emotions tightly reigned in, which means Scorpios are pretty hard to read. Additionally, Scorpios tend to be confident and have no problem standing their ground in a conversation—and this combination of qualities can leave Scorpios with quite an intimidating reputation.
    • Scorpios are also all about magnetism, intention, and intuition, notes astrologer Lisa Stardust, and they’re not afraid to dive deep and explore life’s mysteries.[4] That intensity can make them pretty intimidating to other people, too.
    • Tip for Scorpios: Having such a powerful presence is definitely one of your strengths. It’s great to be confident and collected, but remember to be open-minded, too.
    • If you’re willing to listen to people earnestly in addition to asserting yourself (and soften your appearance a little by smiling while making eye contact), it’ll help you seem more approachable.
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They can get defensive.

  1. Scorpio is self-protective and often has their guard up around others.
    Because Scorpio is so protective and, at times, wary of other people, they may get overly defensive—especially when they feel like someone is critiquing or trying to change them. Even when the criticism is intended to be constructive, defensive Scorpio may assume it’s disrespectful or unfair and lash out with all the venom of a scorpion (the symbol of Scorpio).
    • Tip for Scorpios: You may feel defensive because you fear vulnerability or the unknown. Feeling that fear is okay, but don’t let it rule you—resist the urge to be defensive and have a calm discussion instead. Hear people out and give yourself time to process your emotions before you respond.[5]
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They tend to get jealous easily.

  1. Scorpio’s sensitive nature sometimes leads to jealousy.
    Scorpio is a water sign, which means they’re deeply emotional and sentimental at heart (even if they don’t always seem like it). That sensitivity, along with Scorpio’s intense loyalty and the fact that they have difficulty trusting others, is often the source of their jealousy. They can get jealous over partners, friends, and colleagues, and even end up comparing themselves to others when they feel envious.[6]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Try letting go of your envy and jealousy. Make an effort to recognize when it’s coming from a place of insecurity, and learn to manage those insecurities in healthier ways. Processing your emotions, whether by journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or meeting with a therapist, can be helpful.
    • It’s normal to experience a little jealousy sometimes. However, experiencing a lot of jealousy can cause issues in your relationships, so learning to control it is crucial.
    • Scorpios care deeply about what they put out into the world and are protective of the people they love and care about, notes Stardust. Combined with their transformative nature, she says they’re always striving to be better.[7] So it’s okay if you’re not where you want to be right now—just keep making small changes and you’ll get there!
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They can be manipulative.

  1. Scorpios tend to look for subtle ways to get what they want in life.
    That’s not to say all Scorpios are mean people; they’re just very perceptive and skilled at reading others, making them good at manipulation if they choose to do it. And, when a Scorpio wants something but doesn’t know how else to get it, they might be tempted to manipulate people using their subtle persuasive abilities.[8]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Try to remind yourself that manipulation ultimately weakens relationships, even if it seems like the easiest way to get things done.
    • Reign in the urge to manipulate people, and remember that it’s always better to speak your mind and say what you want directly, even if you don’t always get your way.
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They can be prone to suspicion.

  1. Scorpio’s strong intuition can make them seem mistrusting at times.
    This shrewd zodiac sign often has a “sixth sense” about people—it's one of their strengths, but also makes them a little paranoid, notes Eyedealism.[9] They’re always on the lookout, ready to stop someone from hurting or taking advantage of them.[10] This can cause them to miss valuable opportunities and relationships because they’re determined to keep their distance from others.
    • Astrologer Aliza Kelly adds that dating can be a challenge for Scorpios, as it’s not easy for them to open up and let someone in. Relationships are more of a slow burn since it takes them a long time to build trust, honesty, and intimacy.[11]
    • Once a Scorpio feels they can trust someone, though, they are incredibly loyal and trustworthy, notes Kelly.[12]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Work on recognizing when your suspicions are valid and when they’re unfounded. Some healthy suspicion is typical, but paranoia over everyone and everything isn’t healthy.
    • Trusting your gut’s not a weakness, especially when you’re a perceptive Scorpio. Just draw the line between trusting your gut and holding everyone at arm’s length.
    • As a Scorpio, you probably rarely trust people who haven’t earned it. Remember that to build trust, you must first let people in. Be brave and commit to forming meaningful relationships as you learn to trust more.
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They often obsess over tasks.

  1. As a fixed sign, Scorpio can get hyper-focused on what they’re doing.
    Fixed signs are the zodiac’s “stabilizers.” They’re typically driven, dedicated, and focused signs with the wherewithal to finish what they start. Those are all great qualities, but Scorpios tend to have an “all or nothing” mindset, and when their intensity and focus cross over into obsession, they may fixate on tasks more than they need to, explains Eyedealism.[13]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Learn to let things go and take breaks from whatever you’re currently working on. Relaxation is just as important as getting things done.
    • It’s great to have projects or hobbies you’re devoted to, but focusing on the same thing nonstop doesn’t give you time to do other activities, socialize, or take a rest.
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They can hold intense grudges.

  1. Scorpios rarely trust again once they feel betrayed by someone.
    This sign is a master grudge-holder. Nobody likes being betrayed or taken advantage of, but for Scorpio, it’s nearly impossible for them to “forgive and forget.” When someone betrays them, Scorpio will likely hold it against that person indefinitely—and, because Scorpio is so set in their ways, they rarely have a change of heart.
    • Combined with their observant nature and natural suspicion, it can sometimes seem like Scorpio is looking for a grudge. The Eduts note that Scorpios are always watching and pay attention to every detail. And as soon as someone crosses a line, that’s it—they’re done.[14]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Try to forgive and move on instead of holding grudges. It’s absolutely fair to end a relationship when someone breaks your trust, but that doesn’t mean you have to be angry about it forever, either.[15]
    • Remember that forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not just the person you’re forgiving. It can help you overcome whatever hurts you’re holding onto, and that’s a good thing.
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They can be vengeful.

  1. Scorpio’s fierce loyalty turns to vindictiveness when they feel wronged.
    Rather than letting bygones be bygones, Scorpio often feels like there’s a score to settle—and they won’t hesitate to get revenge if they can. While Scorpio’s passion and loyalty are two of their best qualities, they can also use those traits for malicious reasons when feeling spiteful. A Scorpio is just trying to defend themselves or their loved ones, but they sometimes take it too far.
    • Tip for Scorpios: Stop and think before you do something vengeful. Consider how your actions could affect your reputation and potentially hurt someone by getting revenge on them.
    • Feeling like someone should pay for their wrongdoings is entirely understandable, but that doesn’t mean it’s your job to punish them. Try taking the high road and moving forward instead.
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They can appear cold and calculating.

  1. Scorpio’s stoicism makes them seem colder than they actually are.
    Sometimes, talking to a Scorpio can be misleading. They're reserved and dislike showing emotion, making them seem cold. Plus, Eyedealism says Scorpio’s strategic, logical mindset (and insightful nature) can make them come off as cunning, calculating, and indifferent to other people.[16] In reality, Scorpio is much more than that! They’re also deeply passionate and caring, but may struggle to show it.[17]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Remember to be mindful of how your actions affect others. You’re cunning and clever, but you’re also very empathetic—letting people see that will help them get to know the real you.
    • In addition to showing empathy, try being more open about your feelings. Get to know people so you feel comfortable being your authentic self around them.
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They can appear secretive and aloof.

  1. Scorpio’s caution and fear of vulnerability make them very private.
    Of all the zodiac signs, Scorpio is one of the most secretive; they deeply value their privacy. That’s not a bad thing, but Scorpio’s secretive nature also stems from the fear that others might react negatively to hearing their secrets; they like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, explains Eyedealism.[18] Thus, sharing private information is hard for a Scorpio. And, it takes a really long time for them to show other people who they really are, notes the Eduts.[19]
    • Tip for Scorpios: Work on overcoming your fears and sharing more with people you feel you can trust.
    • You don’t need to share all of your secrets at once; start by sharing something small, and work up to sharing your bigger secrets once you feel more comfortable. You might even find that it feels good to confide in people.
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They can be stubborn and domineering.

  1. Scorpio’s intense determination also makes them extremely obstinate.
    As previously mentioned, Scorpio is a fixed sign, so in addition to being driven and focused, they’re also incredibly stubborn. Scorpios rarely go back on a decision once their mind is made up, and they don’t like being wrong. They tend to be set in their ways, making them want to control situations (to ensure everything is done exactly as they want). In short, working with Scorpios can feel fairly rigid and uncompromising.
    • Tip for Scorpios: Look for ways to compromise and come to terms with people rather than clashing with them. Recognize that other people have good ideas that can be worthwhile (or even better than your own!).
    • This means being receptive to other people’s ideas and understanding that sometimes, making peace is more fulfilling (and healthy) than being right.
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They can be overly ambitious.

  1. Scorpio’s natural intensity motivates them to always come out on top.
    Scorpio’s ruling planet, Pluto, rules transformation, death, and renewal. It also tends to intensify everything, including Scorpio’s ambition. This makes personal evolution and overcoming obstacles really important to Scorpio, notes Stardust.[20] There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be successful in life, but Scorpio’s competitiveness and desire for power can sometimes go too far. Eyedealism says Scorpio may even be cutthroat and ruthless toward others to ensure their success.[21]
    • Tip for Scorpios: It’s important to chase your goals and find success without turning life into a brutal competition. You may have to compete for opportunities in your career, but you don’t need to tear people down to get ahead.
    • Rather than getting competitive, focus on being the best version of yourself and impressing people with your Scorpio smarts, confidence, and drive.
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They can get aggressive.

  1. Scorpio has a fiery temper due to their opinionated, passionate nature.
    In traditional astrology, Scorpio’s other ruling planet is Mars, the planet of aggression and energy. Thus, it’s no wonder that Scorpio can be fierce and overly hostile when provoked, Eyedealism explains.[22] Scorpio’s aggression also comes from their defensiveness; their temper tends to jump out when they feel attacked. So, Scorpio’s temper is usually just a cover for their insecurities.
    • Tip for Scorpios: Work on controlling your temper, even when you feel justified in telling someone off or getting aggressive. Take a deep breath to calm yourself and aim to communicate your feelings using “I” statements. If you feel like you can’t cool off, remove yourself from the situation.[23]
    • It’s okay to express anger, but don’t do it in a way that’ll hurt others. Communicate your feelings in a healthy way, like by using “I” statements, and listen to the other person when they talk.

Join the Discussion...

Is dating a Scorpio hard?
WikiGladeCatcher583
WikiGladeCatcher583
I went on a date with someone recently and they told me they were a Scorpio and idk if that's a red flag or not. I've heard that Scorpios are obsessive and difficult to be in a relationship with, is that facts or nah? I kinda wanna go on a second date but idk if I should so pls help
Ispahn
Ispahn
As a Scorpio myself, I’d say dating a Scorpio isn’t necessarily "hard," but it can be intense. We value loyalty and trust the most, so if those things are broken, the relationship can be difficult. But if you're open, patient, and not afraid of vulnerability, you’ll find that dating a Scorpio can be incredibly rewarding.
Angel Eyedealism
Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Scorpio is an obsessive sign. They're looking for someone to obsess over and they're going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty to them. For example, they may play hard to get or act obsequious. If they sense that you're not matching their intense energy, they're gonna lose interest. Scorpio is also a very sensual sign, so if they not sensing that you're sexually interested in them, they will lose interest. So you would definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy with a Scorpio in order for them to fall for you. Scorpios want to dive deep into issues and topics. They're not a superficial sign, so they'll be turned off if you're very shallow. They like intensity and passion. If they don't feel engaged, enthralled, sexual, and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you. So there has to be something intriguing. But also, if you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep them pulling on the yarn forever. So don't give it all up right away! Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsess over you because they always have to obsess.

If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.

Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
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This article was co-authored by Tali & Ophira Edut and by wikiHow staff writer, Devin McSween. Tali & Ophira Edut are astrologers, intuitive advisors, and best-selling authors, also known as the AstroTwins. They are long time resident astrologers at ELLE magazine and have published over 20 books, including their newest, The Astrology Advantage (2024). The Astrology Advantage introduces their revolutionary IAM System, simplifying the birth chart into three archetypes: Innovator, Authority, and Maven. More information on their IAM System can be found on their online platform, AstroStyle, along with a wealth of knowledge and resources. Tali and Ophira host a weekly podcast called AstroTwins Radio and can be found on YouTube @astrotwins-tv. They have also appeared as guest experts for Bravo, MTV, Good Morning America, and the Today Show and created the first reality TV dating show based on astrology, Cosmic Love, on Amazon Prime (2022). Tali and Ophira both graduated from the University of Michigan with BAs in Fine Arts. This article has been viewed 88,025 times.
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