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Dating coach Hayley Quinn shares the best relationship-building questions to ask on a date

Co-authored by Lada Kain and Dev Murphy, MA

Last Updated: July 23, 2026 Fact Checked

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It's time for…the Dating Game! If you're looking for icebreakers to help you get to know your crush, date, or partner better, we've got you covered. We've compiled a list of our favorite fun, flirty, and deep dating game-style questions to ask a romantic partner: whether you're on your first date or you've been married for twenty years, there's always more to learn about a person! Plus, wikiHow partnered with relationship experts for tips on what sort of questions to ask your date to get to know them better, and how asking questions can boost intimacy between partners. We even turned to Reddit for some of the best dating questions the internet can come up with! Keep scrolling to take your relationship to the next level!

Best Dating Game Questions

Dating coach Hayley Quinn suggests asking your date questions that will encourage emotional vulnerability and boost intimacy between you, like "If you had to relive one day from the past year, which day would it be?" Here are some other great options:

• Would you rather have a pause, a rewind, or a fast-forward button on your life?
• How would you describe me to your friends?
• What gives you butterflies?
• How do you want to be remembered?
• When have you felt most alive?

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Flirty Dating Game Questions

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   "How would you describe me to your friends?" These flirtatious questions are sure to bring a coy smirk to your date's face, while also telling you more about them and how they feel about you:

   • Do you think about me when we're not together?
   • Do you remember what I wore on our first date?
   • How would you describe me to your friends?
   • What color should I wear more?
   • How would you describe our first kiss?
   • Do you think I’m a good kisser?
   • What’s your favorite place to be kissed?
   • What's your favorite physical attribute of yours?
   • What's your favorite physical attribute of mine?
   • If we got matching tattoos, what would they be?
   • What gives you butterflies?
   • Do you like it when I wear cologne/perfume?
   • How do you like to cuddle?
   • What's your favorite type of kiss?
   • What did you like most about me when we first met?
   • What do you like most about me now?

   Meet the wikiHow Experts

   Hayley Quinn is a UK-based dating coach who teaches men and women globally how to meet and date people in real life, not just on apps. She has over 15 years of experience.

   Lauren Sanders is a professional matchmaker, dating coach, and the founder of Dating for the Soul. With over four years of experience, she specializes in helping singles find love.

   Cristina Morara is a professional matchmaker, dating coach, relationship expert, and the founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking.

   Donna Barnes is a certified life and love coach based in New York City, New York. With over 18 years of experience, Donna is known as The Love Coach.
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Deep Dating Game Questions

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   "What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?" Quinn advises asking deep questions that "encourage emotional candor," such as, "Would you rather have a pause, a rewind, or a fast-forward button on your life?" These hypothetical questions might not seem all that serious on the surface, but how a person answers them can really tell you a lot about their values and perspective!

   • Would you rather have a pause, a rewind, or a fast-forward button on your life?
   • If you had to relive one day from the past year, which day would it be?
   • How would you say your values have shifted in the past five years, if they have?
   • What's something you're passionate about?
   • If we stopped seeing each other today and we met again in five years' time, where and how would I meet you again?
   • Who made you feel safest as a child?
   • What’s a core principle you’ll never compromise on?
   • Is honesty always the best policy?
   • What makes you feel desired?
   • What’s something you’re curious to try, even if you haven’t yet?
   • Do you believe more in fate or in free will?
   • What’s a belief you’ve outgrown?
   • Do you believe people can truly change?
   • How did your parents show their approval?
   • How did your parents show their disapproval?
   • How do you want to be remembered?

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Juicy Dating Game Questions

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   "Who’s your celebrity hall pass?" Get down to the dirty deets with these juicy icebreakers! Depending on how well you know your date, you could even sprinkle in some questions that lean a little dirtier, like "How do you feel about sexting?"

   • What are you struggling to let go of?
   • Who was your first kiss?
   • Who’s your celebrity hall pass?
   • When do you feel the most cringe?
   • Be honest, do you ever stalk your exes on social media?
   • What is your earliest memory?
   • How do you think your therapist would talk about you to their friends?
   • What was the worst date you've ever had?
   • Have you ever been banned from a dating app? If so, how’d it happen?
   • What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you?
   • What's the most embarrassing thing you've done while drunk?
   • When have you felt most alive?
   • Have you ever read an erotic novel?
   • How do you feel about sexting?
   • What do you need to forgive yourself for?
   • Do you think anyone has blocked or muted you on Instagram?
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First Date Dating Game Questions

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   "What was your childhood like?" Matchmaker and dating coach Lauren Sanders recommends asking first dates important life questions to get to know them. "Ask them what they're searching for in a relationship, about family goals like children or marriage, their spiritual affiliation, and where they see themselves in the next five years financially." Not only will it help you learn more about your date, but it'll give you an idea of how compatible you really are.

   • Where do you see yourself in the next five years, professionally? Financially?
   • Do you know your attachment style? If so, what is it?
   • Where did you grow up?
   • Do you prefer physical or non-physical compliments?
   • What's your relationship with your family like?
   • Can you describe your communication style in relationships?
   • How do you like to handle conflict in relationships?
   • Have you ever been in love?
   • Do you believe in soulmates?
   • What kind of future traditions do you want to create?
   • What would you do if money were no object?
   • What scares you about the future?
   • What are your red flags in a relationship?
   • How many serious relationships have you been in?
   • What's one thing you learned from past relationships?
   • How do you feel about marriage?
   • Do you see yourself living in this city for a long time, or would you like to move eventually?
   • What are your green flags in a relationship?
   • What’s your idea of the perfect date?
   • Do you prefer the city or the country?
   • What are you looking for in a relationship?
   • Do you see yourself having children someday?
   • How do you like to recharge at the end of a busy day?
   • Do you consider yourself religious or spiritual?
   • What was your childhood like?
   • Want more first date questions? Check out "75+ First Date Questions for Fun & Engaging Conversations."

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Get-to-Know-You Dating Game Questions

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   "What's your favorite movie of all time?" Before you can get to know someone on a deep level, you've gotta learn the basics! If you don't know your partner or date all that well yet, try asking these simple questions about the interests and pastimes:

   • What type of music do you like?
   • What’s the last concert you went to?
   • What does a typical weekend look like for you?
   • Did you have a childhood nickname?
   • What are you currently reading or looking forward to reading?
   • What's your favorite movie of all time?
   • What’s your favorite podcast?
   • Do you have a favorite dish to cook?
   • Do you have any tattoos?
   • What is your favorite part of your daily routine?
   • Do you play any musical instruments?
   • What’s one thing you’re looking forward to doing this year?
   • Do you like celebrity gossip?
   • What is your favorite local spot and why?
   • What does your perfect Sunday look like?
   • What is something you think is totally underrated?
   • Do you like spicy food?
   • What is your astrological sign?
   • Do you have any pets?
   • What is the last show you watched and loved?
   • Do you prefer coffee or tea?
   • What would your dream vacation consist of?
   • Are you more of a minimalist or a maximalist?
   • What is one thing on your bucket list?
   • If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you want to travel most?
   • What do you like to listen to when you’re in the car?
   • Do you have any morning or evening rituals?
   • Are you allergic to anything?
   • Do you like to go camping?
   • When you go on vacation, do you plan everything down to the minute, or do you like to keep things flexible?
   • What are your top three favorite TV shows of all time?
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Funny Dating Game Questions

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   "Have you ever egged someone’s house?" These questions may be silly, but how your date answers them can probably tell you a lot about them! And even if you don't learn a ton from their answer to "Would you rather have teeth for hair or hair for teeth?" we bet you'll still enjoy a few laughs together—and shared laughter is an important way to bond.

   • Do you sleep with a top sheet?
   • What is your Roman Empire?
   • Do you believe in aliens?
   • Would you rather have teeth for hair or hair for teeth?
   • Have you ever laughed so hard you spit out your drink?
   • Have you ever met a celebrity?
   • Did you have an imaginary friend as a child?
   • If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
   • What’s the most basic thing about you?
   • What’s the most embarrassing song you unironically love?
   • Have you ever egged someone’s house?
   • Which Taylor Swift era are you?
   • If you won the lottery, how would you spend your winnings?
   • If you got famous, what would you be famous for?
   • If you could only watch one show for the rest of your life, what would it be?
   • What is your guilty pleasure?
   • If you had the chance to go to outer space, would you do it?
   • Do you have any secret talents?
   • Do you know what your parents would have named you if they hadn’t chosen your name?
   • What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done this year?

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Dating Game Questions According to Reddit

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1. Ask Reddit, and you shall receive. We scoured Reddit for some of the best questions to ask on a date, from the deep to the fun and frankly unhinged! Here were our favorites:

   • If you had to choose one cartoon character to run the world, who would you pick and why?
   • What's one thing you've tried to do, but are just terrible at?
   • What would your TEDTalk be about?
   • Give me an adjective that describes you, for every letter of your first name.
   • Toilet paper: over or under?
   • A movie is made about your life. Which actor plays your part?
   • What's your love language?
   • You're handed a book, and inside it is every negative thing anyone has ever said about you. It's attributed to the speaker, but with no other context, not even the time or date. Do you read it or destroy it?
   • Curly fries or waffle fries?
   • How many chipmunks could fit in your left shoe?
   • Did you have a nickname as a child? What was it?
   • What do people most misunderstand about you?
   • What is the last book or magazine you read?
   • What's the strangest thing you've seen while driving?
   • What’s your favorite home decoration you have?
   • Do you think fish sleep?
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Tips for Asking Questions

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   Ask the questions you'd like them to ask you. This is a pro-tip from dating coach Cristina Morara, who explains that if you'd like to talk about something important to you (or brag about something cool about yourself), one way to introduce the subject is to ask your date about it first. Then, they'll likely return the question to you.

   • "Let's say that you're a big traveler," she says. You'd ask your date something like, "'Where have you traveled' or 'what's one of the coolest places you've been?'" and then, hopefully, they'd ask you the same questions.
   • "So it's not only just sharing," she explains. "It's about them being able to reveal something a little more meaningful about yourself."
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   Ask questions that will reveal shared interests and values. It might seem obvious, but Quinn encourages asking yourself, "'What would make me more attracted to [them] if I figured out about [them]?' 'How can I be curious to see if [they share] those qualities and values?' 'What excites me? And how can I see if [they want] to share that with me?'"

   • Dating and relationship coach Donna Barnes seconds Quinn's tip: "I'm a sports fan. So, if I'm out with somebody, I always want to know, are you a sports fan? Like, 'Do you like going to games?' Like, 'How much of a sports fan are you?'"
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   Avoid interrogating your partner. The goal is to have a fun, relaxed conversation to get to know each other and boost intimacy—not to make them feel like they're being grilled, instructs Dating and Relationship Coach Lada Kain. One way to help a conversation feel lower-pressure and more organic is by asking open-ended questions. So instead of a yes-or-no question like "Do you want to have kids?" you could ask, "How do you feel about having children?" This will allow for a more nuanced answer from them—and perhaps allow you both to build a conversation off of the subject, rather than rapid-fire jumping from yes-or-no question to yes-or-no question.
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   Prepare a few questions in advance. You shouldn't attack them with questions, but you also don't need to improvise. Dating coach Renee Slansky suggests giving yourself conversation prompts before a date. "We don't have to necessarily go out there and just wing it," she says, "because a lot of the time when we wing it, we put ourselves in a position where we don't feel as confident."
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Why ask your partner questions?

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   Asking your partner questions can bring you both closer together. "Initiating a thoughtful conversation with your partner can open the door to more intimacy," observes relationship coach Zach Pontrello.
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   It's also a way to get to know them and test compatibility. As Barnes says, the point of a first date is to figure out if they're the right person for you, and asking questions is the way to do that. On a first date, a question like, "Do you think you'd ever want to have kids?" might seem forward, but it's better to get dealbreakers out of the way sooner than later.
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   Asking questions shows your partner you're interested in them. Whether you're on your first date or your twentieth anniversary, asking questions is a great way to show your partner you care about them, you accept them, and you're invested in their thoughts, feelings, and day-to-day life. As dating and relationship coach Mark Rosenfield points out, "One of the real rewarding things about relationships is that it's an opportunity to feel accepted, especially for parts of yourself that may not have been accepted before."
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